{"id":427,"date":"2015-09-04T10:34:00","date_gmt":"2015-09-04T10:34:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/2015\/09\/04\/never-enough\/"},"modified":"2020-10-28T17:59:50","modified_gmt":"2020-10-28T17:59:50","slug":"never-enough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/2015\/09\/04\/never-enough\/","title":{"rendered":"Never Enough"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sometimes you can feel like you are doing it all and it is still never enough. \u00a0Maybe it is just a side affect of having kids. \u00a0They take you for granted. \u00a0Mom always does it. \u00a0Mom takes care of it. \u00a0Mom is just silly when she worries about that. \u00a0Maybe that last one is the one that bothers you right now. You feel like you can never get the balance quite right. \u00a0You know you are a worrier and you know sometimes it can get to be a bit much. \u00a0But that does not mean that your worrying is never justified. \u00a0This world is crazy and life is crazy and kids are crazy and sometimes a little research and a little worrying can be a preemptive strike against the crazy.<\/p>\n

It is a fine line and a hard thing to explain to kids. \u00a0That kid who always has the stomach aches? \u00a0Your worry and research might have found a solution and might make his life a bit better. \u00a0And no it is not ridiculous and no it is not silly and no you are not just trying to take all his good food away. \u00a0But it is never enough. \u00a0Because this time you may be right, but then you worry that all the times of unnecessary worry have inured your kids to the good advice you are now giving. \u00a0(And yes, you see the irony of worrying about having worried too much.)<\/p>\n

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\"girl<\/a><\/div>\n

So it is never enough. Never enough for you, that is. \u00a0Because the kids, the kids are fine. \u00a0You are their stability so they feel free to say that something is silly, that you are silly, because they are not constantly learning a new job. \u00a0But you are. \u00a0Because being the mom of an almost 15-year-old is a completely different thing from being the mom of a ten-year-old. \u00a0And being the mom of a ten-year-old is completely different from being the mom of a one-year-old. \u00a0Your job changes from day to day and so do the people you care for. \u00a0So every day is a bit of a worry. \u00a0Is this how you handle a teenager? \u00a0Is this how you explain puberty to a girl? \u00a0Are they old enough to do this? \u00a0Are they responsible enough to do that?<\/p>\n

\"boy<\/a><\/div>\n

So you worry. \u00a0And at the end of the day, you set it aside. \u00a0Because really, what else can you do? \u00a0You have never held this job before. \u00a0You are new at it, even at almost 15 years in. \u00a0And you always will be new because they are always changing. \u00a0So you set aside the idea of it being never enough. \u00a0Because to them you are enough. \u00a0You are Mom. \u00a0You know stuff, you worry about stuff, you nag about stuff, but in the end, they depend on you for stuff.<\/p>\n

They love you and you love them. \u00a0And that is always enough.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sometimes you can feel like you are doing it all and it is still never enough. \u00a0Maybe it is just a side affect of having kids. \u00a0They take you for granted. \u00a0Mom always does it. \u00a0Mom takes care of it. \u00a0Mom is just silly when she worries about that. \u00a0Maybe that last one is the one that bothers you right now. You feel like you can never get the balance quite right. \u00a0You know you are a worrier and you know sometimes it can get to be a bit much. \u00a0But that does not mean that your worrying is never justified. \u00a0This world is crazy and life is crazy and kids are crazy and sometimes a little research and a little worrying can be a preemptive strike against the crazy. It is a fine line and a hard thing to explain to kids. \u00a0That kid who always has the stomach aches? \u00a0Your worry and research might have found a solution and might make his life a bit better. \u00a0And no it is not ridiculous and no it is not silly and no you are not just trying to take all his good food away. \u00a0But it is never enough. \u00a0Because this time you may be right, but then you worry that all the times of unnecessary worry have inured your kids to the good advice you are now giving. \u00a0(And yes, you see the irony of worrying about having worried too much.) So it is never enough. Never enough for you, that is. \u00a0Because the kids, the kids are fine. \u00a0You are their stability so they feel free to say that something is silly, that you are silly, because they are not constantly learning a new job. \u00a0But you are. \u00a0Because being the mom of an almost 15-year-old is a completely different thing from being the mom of a ten-year-old. \u00a0And being the mom of a ten-year-old is completely different from being the mom of a one-year-old. \u00a0Your job changes from day to day and so do the people you care for. \u00a0So every day is a bit of a worry. \u00a0Is this how you handle a teenager? \u00a0Is this how you explain puberty to a girl? \u00a0Are they old enough to do this? \u00a0Are they responsible enough to do that? So you worry. \u00a0And at the end of the day, you set it aside. \u00a0Because really, what else can you do? \u00a0You have never held this job before. \u00a0You are new at it, even at almost 15 years in. \u00a0And you always will be new because they are always changing. \u00a0So you set aside the idea of it being never enough. \u00a0Because to them you are enough. \u00a0You are Mom. \u00a0You know stuff, you worry about stuff, you nag about stuff, but in the end, they depend on you for stuff. They love you and you love them. \u00a0And that is always enough.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":452,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[14,70,6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-427","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-children","category-me","category-thoughts"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/427","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=427"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/427\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2948,"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/427\/revisions\/2948"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/452"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=427"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=427"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.holdsuponhappiness.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=427"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}