This Is For The Quiet Ones

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The ones who listen more than they talk.

The ones who are always told that they need to come out of their shell.

This is for the ones who enjoy a party but sometimes need to just walk away.

For the ones who are tired of being overlooked, who are tired of having people think that being quiet is their whole personality.

This is for the ones who have more going on in their heads than most of the world will ever know.

This is for the people who are talked over and ignored because someone said it louder.

This is for the ones who never quite fit in.

This is for all of us who overthink and over-analyze.

This is for anyone who has ever had someone think they are sad or angry or in a bad mood just because they had nothing to say at that moment.

This is for everyone who thinks that staying home on a Saturday night with a book, a cup of tea, and a few of your favorite (quiet) people is not a failure but a success.

This is for the ones to whom it is implied that being quiet means you are socially incompetent or need to be taken care of.

This is for anyone who has been accused of being stuck up or arrogant because they are quiet.

This is for all of us who have ever not been invited somewhere because obviously being quiet means we don't want a social life.

This is for all of us who realize that you can't pigeonhole people.  That being quiet is not the sum total of a personality just as much as being loud isn't.  That, as much as the internet wants us to think otherwise, we are not all divided up into neat little groups of introverts and extroverts.  That it is okay to be loud and it is okay to be quiet and it is okay to be both depending on who you are with and what you are doing.

 You aren't any better than anyone else but you aren't any worse either.  Being quiet is fine.  Being quiet is good.  I like quiet people.

You can come sit (quietly) on my couch on a Saturday night.  I will give you a cup of tea and a good book.

This is for you, the quiet ones.


  1. This is a great post. There is so much truth to it.

    I am mostly an extrovert. When I was a child and for much of my adolescence I was quiet and introverted. I think that my personality could have easily gone the other way and I could have turned out a quiet person. I am not sure if I would have been any worse for it.

    1. I think many of us are a bit of a mix of introvert and extrovert. It is just that one aspect is more obvious. It is interesting that you feel you have changed from introverted to extroverted.

  2. Really enjoyed this post today- know exactly what you mean. As one of the so-called 'quiet' ones there is so much truth in this. Your blog is one of my favourites by the way.

    1. Thank you very much! I read your comment at 6:30 a.m. after we had all overslept. My kids had missed the bus and I was getting ready to drive them to school. It was 4 degrees F outside. Your comment made my day much brighter.

  3. Thanks for that post, I completely agree with you - as one who has often suffered from negative opinions from people, just because I tend to be quiet. It just means I'm more thoughtful and less pushy - not stand-offish as others often seem to think.

    1. It seems to me that some people feel a bit threatened by the quiet ones. I am not sure why. But yes, I have frequently been accused of being standoffish. I wonder how many people who blog are actually quiet people in real life.

  4. Another big "yes" to this post. My biggest struggle right now as a quiet one married to another quiet ones is that we have two loud and social kids. I love them, but jeez. The only way we can get them to pipe down is to allow too much screen time, which of course makes me feel like a terrible parent too.

    1. It is hard to balance everything, isn't it? We are basically a family of quiet people but I can totally relate to the screen time dilemma. My daughter is a chatterbox at home and sometimes I give her the screens just for a bit of peace and quiet. And yes, then I feel like a terrible parent.