Things I Don't Like
Friday, March 11, 2016
I don't like large parties. A few people are fine, any more than that is torture.
I don't like idle chatter.
I don't like alcohol. I would rather have a nice cup of tea.
I despise group activities, especially ones that put you on the spot.
I hate it when people comment on how quiet I am and then look at me expectantly as if I should suddenly change my whole personality in order to fit their expectations.
I don't really like spontaneity, give me a good plan any day.
I hate squash. Any and all squash. And it doesn't matter how you cook it, I will still hate it.
Mice are evil, especially if they get into my house.
I don't like gushy emotions. I am not heartless, I just don't necessarily like to talk about it.
I don't really like most board games though I played endless games of Candyland with my kids when they were little. I should win some kind of award for that.
I don't like amusement parks. Too many people, too much commotion, I don't like scary rides. Oddly, I do like state fairs.
I don't like watching sports, much to my husband's sorrow. Though when we lived outside Chicago we used to go to Wrigley Field and I liked that because I enjoyed people watching. I didn't really watch the game.
I don't like gum. My kids do. It annoys me, especially if my daughter has bubble gum. That is one of the worst smells on earth.
If you look back at the beginning of this post you can see that it was started with the intention of discussing differences in personalities. I was thinking about how quiet people are constantly being told how quiet they are as if it is unacceptable. Somehow I got sidetracked into a pointless list of annoying things, I am not really sure how that happened.
But really, all of these things are parts of what make me who I am. I don't like amusement parks and squash and mice. I also don't like crowds and being put on the spot. All of those feelings are valid. Just because you like squash doesn't mean I have to as well. However, for some unknown reason, people seem to think that if their personality is a certain type then all other people should be the same. I don't mind if you are exuberant and chatty and loud. Go for it. It might wear me out eventually but I will enjoy the show in the meantime. But I will enjoy the show from my own quiet corner, I won't get on the stage with you. I also won't force you to stay in my quiet corner.
The world benefits so much from having a variety of personalities. We need the team players and the loners, the people who jump in and the ones who sit back and make a plan, the ones who brainstorm with a vengeance and the ones who narrow the focus. We need to recognize that it is okay for people to be different.
I can love books, you can love parties. You can love group vacations, they can sound like hell on earth to me. You can have a glass of wine, I'll have my nice cup of tea.
We can be different and still be friends.
Just don't serve me squash. I hate it and it doesn't matter how you cook it.