Things I Don't Like



I don't like large parties.  A few people are fine, any more than that is torture.

I don't like idle chatter.

I don't like alcohol.  I would rather have a nice cup of tea.

I despise group activities, especially ones that put you on the spot.

I hate it when people comment on how quiet I am and then look at me expectantly as if I should suddenly change my whole personality in order to fit their expectations.

I don't really like spontaneity, give me a good plan any day.

I hate squash.  Any and all squash.  And it doesn't matter how you cook it, I will still hate it.

Mice are evil, especially if they get into my house.

I don't like gushy emotions. I am not heartless, I just don't necessarily like to talk about it.

I don't really like most board games though I played endless games of Candyland with my kids when they were little.  I should win some kind of award for that.

I don't like amusement parks.  Too many people, too much commotion, I don't like scary rides.  Oddly, I do like state fairs.

I don't like watching sports, much to my husband's sorrow.  Though when we lived outside Chicago we used to go to Wrigley Field and I liked that because I enjoyed people watching.  I didn't really watch the game.

I don't like gum.  My kids do.  It annoys me, especially if my daughter has bubble gum.  That is one of the worst smells on earth.

If you look back at the beginning of this post you can see that it was started with the intention of discussing differences in personalities.  I was thinking about how quiet people are constantly being told how quiet they are as if it is unacceptable.  Somehow I got sidetracked into a pointless list of annoying things, I am not really sure how that happened.

But really, all of these things are parts of what make me who I am.  I don't like amusement parks and squash and mice.  I also don't like crowds and being put on the spot.  All of those feelings are valid.  Just because you like squash doesn't mean I have to as well.  However, for some unknown reason, people seem to think that if their personality is a certain type then all other people should be the same.  I don't mind if you are exuberant and chatty and loud.  Go for it.  It might wear me out eventually but I will enjoy the show in the meantime.  But I will enjoy the show from my own quiet corner, I won't get on the stage with you.  I also won't force you to stay in my quiet corner.

The world benefits so much from having a variety of personalities.  We need the team players and the loners, the people who jump in and the ones who sit back and make a plan, the ones who brainstorm with a vengeance and the ones who narrow the focus.  We need to recognize that it is okay for people to be different.

I can love books, you can love parties.  You can love group vacations, they can sound like hell on earth to me.  You can have a glass of wine, I'll have my nice cup of tea.

We can be different and still be friends.

Just don't serve me squash.  I hate it and it doesn't matter how you cook it.


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  1. So many things to agree with here! I don't know why this one is first, but I loathe squash. It's slimy and nasty. I am so tired of being served squash.

    I am an introvert myself, but I'm lucky enough not have people telling me I should be different.

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    1. Slimy and nasty, exactly. Squash should be outlawed.

      I wonder what percentage of blog authors are introverts? It does seem to be a hobby that appeals to the personality type.

      Most people accept me as I am but I do have a few extrovert friends who seem to think fun can only be loud and therefore I must not be having fun. Oh well, such is life.

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  2. "The world benefits so much from having a variety of personalities. We need the team players and the loners, the people who jump in and the ones who sit back and make a plan, the ones who brainstorm with a vengeance and the ones who narrow the focus. We need to recognize that it is okay for people to be different."

    Completely true! Rather than complain about a fellow's perceived personality flaw, it's better to learn from it. As an introvert, I really admire lively, energetic people even though I don't really want and need to change my introvert ways.

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    1. Exactly! I also admire lively, energetic people but I don't really need to be them. However, the world needs both of types of people. It definitely makes life interesting. I do enjoy analyzing people and situations which probably makes me notice personality differences more than some people do. I think sometimes people just assume everyone is like them and they are baffled when someone is different.

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