Kindred Spirits

Did you read Anne of Green Gables when you were young?  I did, over and over.  I spent a long time wishing I had red hair, freckles, and just half of Anne's spunk.  I also spent a long time hoping to find a friend who would be a kindred spirit.  Now, don't get me wrong, I had friends, and they were good friends.  However, I was convinced there was something more out there.  I just knew that somewhere there was another girl who thought the way I did and reacted to things the way I did and when we met we would just click.  There would be none of this getting to know each other nonsense.  We would just be friends forever.  Kindred spirits.

But life doesn't always work that way, does it?  Frequently, the people we are friends with are the people that are there.  They are the people we work with, go to school with, share beliefs with. They are the people who have kids the same ages as ours, people who have little bits of their lives in common with little bits of ours.  They are good people and good friends.  Many times they add amazing things to our lives because they are different than we are.

But sometimes we still want the kindred spirit.

Because, honestly, there is nothing like talking to someone who just gets you.  Someone who follows the twist and turns of your mind and doesn't keep asking you what you mean.  Someone you can be yourself with.

I have been thinking a lot about friendships lately because of some drama going on among people I know.  Does everyone want the same thing out of friendships?  I am sure they don't.  And I am sure we don't all define a good friend in the same way.  I wonder sometimes if continuing to look for kindred spirits sets us up for loneliness because friends like that are few and far between.  But then I think of that almost magical feeling when you connect with someone and you know you have found a friend.  It is almost like falling in love.

 I have also been thinking about friendships because my daughter has been rereading Anne of Green Gables. By the way, did anyone else have this copy?

Book--Anne of Green Gables


Can we just agree that this is not what Anne looked like?  Please.  It does not fit the image in my head at all.

In a weird sort of way I think Anne taught me to look below the surface of friendships.  I learned that friendships themselves could be deeper and that there was nothing wrong with wanting more.  But at the same time, value the everyday friendships.  After all, Diana didn't always follow Anne's flights of fancy but they still loved each other dearly.

So anyway, my point is (if you are willing to believe I have one, I am not so sure anymore.) that I still believe in kindred spirits.

And I still sometimes wish I had red hair and freckles and half of Anne's spunk.


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  1. This is a lovely meditation on friendship. I know Diana is Anne's oldest friend - and Anne so much needed a friend when they met. But I love her later friendships, especially the ones she makes at college, and with Leslie. And Miss Cornelia of course :)

    I have that exact edition of Anne. My grandmother gave it to me in the 1970s, and I've always thought that Anne looks like she should be living with the Waltons instead of Matthew & Marilla. Do you have the other books with that Anne on the cover? I do :) Anne's House of Dreams is so 1970s,

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    1. Oh, yes! I have that copy of Anne's House of Dreams. I have the rest of the series in paperback. Anne of the Island has Anne in a pink gown with Gilbert gazing at her broodingly while sitting on a stone wall. It looks like the cover for a romance and always drove me a bit crazy.

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  2. I've been very lucky in friendships. I have to friends that I've been friends with for 25 years. We are definitely kindred spirits. I definitely believe that they are out there, and I hope you find many throughout your life. :) I have NOT seen that picture of Anne before, and she most certainly doesn't look like that. :)

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  3. Those kinds of friends are special, aren't they? The ones where you won't see them for a year but then can pick up right where you left off.

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